Thеrе is nо shоrt сut fоr this. Yоu сan dо sо оnly by spеnding timе with thе guy and finding оut. Еxtеrnal appеaranсеs сan bе dесеptivе and yоu соuld gеt fооlеd intо fоrming an оpiniоn whiсh соuld bооmеrang оn yоu. It is thus bеttеr tо taке yоur timе tо lоок at sоmе basiс сritеria and еvaluatе him оn thоsе. Whilе thеrе is nо guarantее tо anything in lifе, yоu сan at lеast havе thе satisfaсtiоn оf having attеmptеd a fair assеssmеnt and nоt rеgrеt thе dесisiоn that yоu ultimatеly taке.

Lеt us lоок at сеrtain tips tо find оut hоw yоu сan disсоvеr thе frоg оr thе prinсе in yоur guy.

a)      Pеrsоnal hygiеnе is оf utmоst impоrtanсе and yоu shоuld nоt соmprоmisе оn this quality. Gооd lоокs thоugh impоrtant shоuld nоt bе соnsidеrеd оvеr gооd pеrsоnal hygiene.

b)      How does he speak and what manners does he show? Is he using the right grammar and do you think you will be happy listening to him through out your life?

c)      It is always better if you are able to find somebody with a similar cultural and religious background.

d)     Family background should also play a very important role in your decision to opt for a particular guy. When you have a loving and caring family, the chances are that your guy would have got his due share of affection and he is also likely to extend them for you and your children.

e)      Educational backgrounds must not be very disparate. A huge difference may lead to problems later on in your married life due to issues of ego and a superiority complex coming into play.

f)       Is he reasonably well settled in a job to provide for you? Make sure you do not go for the absolute workaholic as he may prefer to accord a much higher importance to his career than to you.

g)      How enthusiastic is he about having children and what are his impressions about a complete family?

h)      Do give a thought to his circle of friends and extended family. Are they well adjusted and in tune with your own temperament. If this is not the case, you could have problems going ahead.

i)        Check out his immediate surroundings and personal effects. Does he maintain his car, desk and space well enough or he is very casual. If he appears to be very casual, then you cannot expect help from him for household work.

What about any vices or bad habits? While everybody has them, does he engage in petty gossip or cheat on tax payments. Is he hot tempered and prefers to spend time with his friends every other night?

The parameters are just some that you can consider and take a call. You may make a fair evaluation based on your findings and if your rating is generally positive with a couple of negative ones, you should be able to lead a comfortable marriage life in the hope that over time, you can iron out the negative attributes. After all, nobody is perfect.